11 Clear Signs Of Chemistry Between Two People
Chemistry plays an important role in a relationship, even before it actually begins. Right from the start and at first glance, we can usually tell whether there is a certain chemistry between two people or not.
However, there are 11 specific signs that can tell us this.
What are these 11 signs? Here I have selected just 11, but of course, there are many more. If you know of any others, write to us about them!
What story will these signs tell us about you and your (potential) relationship? Here you can check if you and your boyfriend, crush, or husband have this chemistry.
1. Shared Interests
It’s okay for people to be different because they can add something to each other. But it’s much better when people are similar or at least have similar interests. This way, they can enjoy some activities that both of you like together.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be a sport, it can be a hobby like reading or having the same taste in music. It can also be an activity like watching movies or TV series.
Of course, it’s best if there are several of these interests, then there are always many topics you can talk about and spend time together. This is a good sign right from the start and a condition for a successful relationship.
2. Understanding Sarcasm
The person who created this list is probably a Scorpio, because understanding sarcasm is in second place. Jokes aside, this point is quite important.
Not just when you (or one of you) are often sarcastic or if your sense of humor is based on it, but it also shows how you generally communicate and how well you understand each other.
It’s not that your partner should say incomprehensible things or use unusual terms. It often happens that two people talk normally and use common expressions but still can’t communicate optimally because they didn’t understand a joke or remark.
However, if communication and understanding are smooth, that’s a sign of good chemistry between the two of you.
3. Respect for Each Other
We shouldn’t need to comment on this point because it should be logical and self-evident.
Unfortunately, it’s not always the case. People of both genders settle for less than they are worth and in this way, respect is lost.
One should show respect to the other and behave as one would want others to behave towards them. This way, you can’t go wrong.
If both of you show great respect for each other from the beginning and are honest, then your relationship is destined for great things.
4. Being a Mirror for Each Other
This is an interesting concept, both during the dating phase and when you’re already a couple. The mirror concept means that two people mimic each other: the way they speak, body language, small tics, and the like.
If you’ve noticed that your conversation partner has crossed their arms or legs after you did, that’s an example of the mirror concept. We always do this when we want to please the person we’re interacting with.
When people are already together, they can apply a similar concept. One partner always behaves the way the other behaves towards them.
This isn’t so much dependent on the individual situation or even the mood, but mostly on how the other behaves. This can be both good and bad, but most of the time, people don’t even notice it.
This trait is great for people who behave exclusively nicely and communicate calmly about everything such couples are very rare to find. Hopefully, you are such a couple.
5. Noticing the Little Things
Noticing and paying attention to the small details about a person is one of the most beautiful things you can do to show affection.
When someone remembers what you said or mentioned once and acts accordingly the next time – that’s enough of a sign that the person wants to please you and make you happy.
Maybe you once said that you don’t particularly like flowers as gifts. But on your next date, he brought you lilies and said: “Here, these are for you let’s see how you like these. If not, I’ll choose something else next time until we find something suitable.”
This might be a perfect example because he didn’t give up on all types of flowers but wants to try if other kinds would be okay since he considers flowers a nice gift.
6. Shared Laughter
This is the crucial factor, if you ask me. So, it’s not that only one person is funny and makes the other laugh, but that both can laugh together and enjoy this time with each other.
When partners laugh together, especially when they laugh until they cry, they show that they can be honest and relaxed in each other’s company.
In these moments, they connect on a deeper level and strengthen their relationship. Laughter is always a good sign, not just at the beginning of a new love but also when you’re in a serious relationship or marriage.
7. Silence between you
Not only conversation and laughter are important, but also how you share silence and whether you can actually enjoy it together, or if it’s still uncomfortable for you. This is a major sign of how well you match each other.
When two people can also be silent together, it means they have formed a comfort zone and can enjoy each other’s company without words.
Whether they’re just lying on the sofa, looking into each other’s eyes, or each doing their own thing, it is very beautiful and pleasant. You feel happy and as if you are at home.
8. Being Consistent
It’s not exactly sexy when someone reaches out once and then doesn’t give any sign of life for three days.
Or if you meet twice and then forget the other’s name because you haven’t seen each other for 2 weeks. This obviously won’t work, and one should know right away that this is a big red flag.
If someone wants to spend time with you, they make time for it despite obstacles. It’s best when we see that someone is constant and consistent, that this person is invested and cares about how we feel.
Consistent attention and affection cannot be faked because it’s easily felt and is useless. But if you notice this trait in your date, don’t let them go!
9. Time Flies Really Fast
This point is probably already known and common, so it doesn’t need to be explained in detail. When you’re having fun, time flies very fast.
It’s always like that, no matter what you’re doing. But when it comes to the people around you, and when you feel so good with them that you don’t even look at the clock, then you should know that this is a good sign.
It can happen that both of you lose track of time and only a few hours later realize how late it actually is or that you need to go home or to work.
However, it’s best if both of you not only notice this but also tell each other openly and comment on it. This way, you know that the other person feels the same way, and confirming one’s feelings is very important to us humans.”
10. Everyone Contributes Equally
We like it when our partner does a lot for us and takes good care of us, right? But it would be even better if this were mutual.
Not just one party should be nice and caring, but both. This is true in every interpersonal relationship, not just in partnerships.
When both invest equal amounts of time, patience, effort, and love into the relationship, it cannot fail. Every effort is worthwhile, and you will be rewarded sooner or later.
If you’re not sure whether you’re giving your partner enough time and love, ask them directly, and they will answer you openly. Communication is yet another key to a happy relationship.
11. Physical Contact
This doesn’t refer to passionate or intimate physical contact. Especially in the beginning and during the dating phase, people tend to touch each other mostly unconsciously and lightly.
Whether it’s a touch of the hand or something similar, but every contact counts. If you’ve noticed that your crush subtly touches you, then it’s a sign that there is a lot of chemistry between you.
Then one can presume that in your potential future relationship, you will also have a lot of physical contact, which is very beneficial and healthy, not just for you as individuals but also for your relationship.
A simple advice if you’re already a couple: Keep the flame alive
Here’s a free tip for all who have been together for some time: You should not let the flame of your love die out. All couples who have been married for a long time will tell you the same thing.
There are usually a few tips, but one of them is always this – keep the flame alive. Be spontaneous, kiss a lot, laugh even more! Tell each other often how much you love each other.
This kind of emotional connection will never let the desire for intimacy between you fade.
This is a recipe for a happy and long-lasting marriage, say the experts and those with experience.
Final Thoughts
With my husband and me, none of these signs were there at the beginning, especially not during the getting-to-know-you phase.
Maybe because we only saw each other for a month before we realized that we were in a relationship.
My point was: This chemistry can awaken instantly, but it doesn’t have to. They say that if you ignite quickly, you burn out just as quickly. With some things, you need to proceed slowly and with a lot of understanding and patience.
The most important thing for us was that our intuition constantly cheered us on. We both listened to it because it never deceives. And so it was this time too.
