7 Things You Can Do When Your Partner Isn’t Romantic

Trapped in an unromantic relationship? Well, many couples are, and believe it or not, this relationship can be more successful than a romantic one if approached correctly.

You just have to discover the right way to approach your partner and get closer to him.

If your partner no longer shows you affection in your relationship, rest assured that their love is hidden but not gone.

Of course, if you are sure that he is not cheating on you and hiding something from you. If only he is naturally withdrawn.

Many women describe their partners as unromantic. They don’t realize that romance isn’t the only factor in a relationship and that they can still thrive as a couple if they do it well.

In this article, you’ll learn 7 things you can do if your partner isn’t romantic.

 

1. Don’t compare him to other men

If you compare him to other men, it means you are not comfortable with the way he shows you love.

And if you tell him openly, he will definitely be hurt too. It means there is someone out there who is better than him. And your partner should be the best and only choice for you.

You’re hurting his ego. Different men show their love in different ways. This is the highest level of disrespect a man can get! You probably know what he is like and how he behaves. You just know he loves you but can’t show it.

Just guide him to what you want. Find a way to tell him what you want him to do for you without comparing him to others.

Speak openly, but don’t be too clingy. Just tell him what would make you happy. For example, you could say, “Honey, it would make me happy if you did that for me.”

 

 

2. Looking back to the past

Old photo albums are a great way to revive old memories. Especially the ones you both did at the beginning of the relationship.

Go back to albums as far back as possible – the first date, the wedding video, the honeymoon. Talk about numerous romantic moments from the past.

Remember specific moments when you both laughed together and share it with him.

He’ll definitely get emotional right away because he’ll be reminded of the relationship you two have and how much you love each other.

Make him laugh. Let him see through time, through all the ups and downs you’ve experienced together. He will notice how things have changed in the last few years.

Remind him that time passes quickly and should not be wasted. Give him time to process this. He will become romantic soon.

 

 

3. Be a role model for your partner

Show him how to connect in the heart. Behave with him the same way you would like him to behave with you.

Men and women are not only equal before the law, but that they are also equal in every way. And that should be the case in a relationship. Both the man and the woman should show their love.

However, in the real world of daily married life, you and your husband are completely different. This difference attracted you to him. This is exactly why you decided to start a relationship with him.

A biological difference is that few men have a connection to their heart. That’s why most men think that intimacy only means sexual intercourse.

A biologically determined difference is that only a few men have a connection to their heart. That’s why most men think that intimacy only means sexual intercourse.

But that’s not the case.

As a woman, you know that intimacy can exist without sexual intercourse and sexual intercourse can exist without intimacy. You are more connected to your heart and therefore have a natural ability for true love.

He has it too, but not to the extent you do.

Your man was the Tin Man, who until recently didn’t even know he has a heart, while you have been aware of yours since your childhood.

 

 

4. Accept your husband as he is

What do you do when your husband does not show affection? Focus on accepting your spouse as an individual, just as he is. He might be an introvert and does not show his feelings openly.

As we have already said, some people are just not romantic, but that does not mean they are not good at heart or that they do not care about you.

They just show it in their own particular way, which you might not notice at all. If you can accept this reality, then the thought ‘my husband is not considerate or loving’ will no longer trouble you.

You will no longer worry about it and torment yourself unnecessarily. Your husband might have other good qualities that are worth being with him for.

And these should be enough for you. If that is not the case, then you should examine your relationship with him.

He might be the most patient man you have ever met, or he is a peace-loving person, he could be a good conversational partner, or your husband might be interested in books.

Accept him as he is, and you will find it easier to love him.

 

 

5. Stop talking about it

Reminding my husband regularly that he wasn’t affectionate was a surefire way to get him to show affection. Everyone said so.

Because he was under pressure. He didn’t know anymore whether he should do something or not, because he didn’t know what kind of reaction it would trigger in me.

So, I kept doing it over and over again. But whether I begged, flattered, demanded, or made friendly suggestions, it never worked. Not even once.

I also addressed this, making him aware of how he behaves, but nothing. Sure, there were times when he obediently hugged and kissed me, but I didn’t care about that.

If anything, my pain and dejection only grew larger because of it. If he does something just because I told him to, it’s not spontaneous.

The truth is, I didn’t want him to hug and kiss me because I want it; I wanted him to WANT to hug and kiss me.

It would be better if you, therefore, stopped talking about it. Be tender and patient with him. It will probably work out over time.

 

 

6. Focus on what you can control

Yourself and your own happiness. In a relationship, we can never control how someone behaves, no matter how much we want to.

We can influence it in a certain way, but never completely. Trying to control behavior leads to distance, resistance, and withdrawal. He will just pull back and distance himself.

Instead, if you focus on being happy, relaxed, and having fun, flirting and affection are more likely to follow.

If, on the other hand, you’re always in a bad mood, he will avoid you so he doesn’t have to hear your complaints and accusations. Men are just like that.

When people admit that they know they are not being loving towards their partner, it’s often because they are stressed, dealing with a loss, worried about the relationship, or worried about the future.

And the other partner will always run away from that if they can’t change or influence it, or in this case, don’t know how to make things right.

Instead of demanding your spouse to change, you should support them and try to inspire them by being loving, happy, and full of energy and light yourself.

Engage in your hobbies and what makes you personally happy. This way, you’ll be in a good mood and satisfied with yourself and your life.

By focusing more on your own happiness and self-care, you will become more attractive because you give him the space he needs.

And he will surely come closer again, because he no longer fears that you will “freak out” without reason.

 

 

7. Avoid overthinking

Avoid thoughts like “my husband is not affectionate or romantic.” The more often you think this thought, the more pain you inflict on yourself.

You will only focus on this matter and not notice his other qualities. No matter what he does for you, it won’t be enough for you because he didn’t do it romantically and gently.

Overthinking leads only to negative thoughts that harm the relationship. Try instead to focus your thoughts on positive things.

Maybe he does many non-romantic things trying to show you how much you mean to him and how much he loves you. Think about it. He doesn’t have to bring roses home every day to show that he loves you.